When we do too much for our kids, we tell them we think they're fragile, incompetent, and needy. They respond by acting fragile, incompetent, and needy.
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I had another mom who used to wake her kids up gently in the morning. Gently get the kid's eyes open and say, honey, what would you like for breakfast? The kid would put in the order for room service. She would then run and wake up the second kid and get the order. She'd go make the breakfast, two different breakfasts, and bring them to the kids.
I said to her, what if there's a snooze alarm? What if the kid says, mom, give me five more minutes? She goes, I would allow that. I go, what if it was a second snooze alarm? She goes, I'd be okay with that as long as we aren't late for school.
My kids? They have an alarm clock. The alarm goes off, they get up. I haven't woken up either of my two youngest kids ever. I take that back — maybe five times. Kids that sleep through alarms have been trained to sleep through alarms. Kids that wake up when the alarm goes off, I would call that raised properly.
When we do too much for our kids, we communicate to them that we think they're fragile, incompetent, needy. And they respond by acting fragile, incompetent, and needy.
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